Your marriage counselor will be a neutral third party. If you are heading into counseling with the idea that someone is going to tell your spouse that you're right, or if you are afraid of hearing from a professional that you're wrong – you can put those thoughts aside. The therapist is there to give you tools to communicate with each other and settle your own conflicts; they don't choose sides and declare a “winner.” This would completely defeat the purpose of going to a marriage counselor in the first place. If you do run into a therapist that does this, find someone else to go to as soon as possible.