Counseling helps you recognize that conflict is a natural part of marriage. In fact, when approached with the correct attitude and the right communication tools, conflict can even strengthen your relationship with each other. It is the therapist's job to help you improve your communication with each other so that you can both express your frustrations, as well as clearly state your needs, allowing you to eliminate some of the mysteries behind your conflicts. Often, this can be the result of unconscious expectations that each person doesn't even realize they have. The counselor can help point out these expectations, making room for new dialogue. This allows you to help support and nurture each other in a loving way, building the foundation for a successful partnership.